OK, something happens – good or bad – it doesn’t matter. In that moment you have a choice – you either hold compassion for the other or dump all over them. Every situation, every moment, presents you with that choice. Notice that I am separating out the content of the event from your feelings about it. You don’tRead more
compassion
Forgiveness
I am sure we were all moved by the expressions of compassion and forgiveness by the Amish toward the man who cruelly murdered five innocent Amish girls and seriously wounded five others. I could not help but contrast the reaction of the Amish Christians with the reaction of the Conservative Christians in Washington after the attacks of September 11,Read more
Childhood
When presented with the opportunity to be compassionate, we often hold back. We go as far as we can, but we are often unable to love freely and openly. We become anxious and afraid. We fear that if we open our hearts we might be rejected. Why do we feel this way? Where does that come from? TheRead more
Giving Love
When a relationship falls apart or when a partner cheats, we can be devastated by the loss and crippled by the pain. We have been stabbed in the heart. It is an old and familiar wound. Grief and sadness over a loss is natural, but our pain comes from our attachment, not from our love. Although we doRead more
Judgment
Humans tend to segregate things into good and bad. We all make and hold judgments. We have issues with former lovers, business partners, co-workers, neighbors, former friends, parents, siblings, etc. We focus on the other people, but judgment is not about them at all. So long as you feel that you can be hurt, you will need yourRead more