by Ross Bishop
Your life has had its share of bumps and rough spots. If you look around you will realize that this is true for everyone. Why is this? Why isn’t life a peaceful slide into old age and retirement? The reason is that there is purpose to the turmoil. Let me explain:
Remember when you first learned to ride a two wheeled bicycle? It was a pretty wobbly experience wasn’t it? At least is was for me. Those wobbles were because I didn’t yet know how to balance the various forces at play. But with time and practice I learned to manage the bike.
OK, so you are learning to ride the bicycle of life. And instead of dealing with gravity and centrifugal force, you are learning to find balance with compassion and being vulnerable. And trying to do that brings up feelings of fear, the threat of intimacy and your feelings of unworthiness. The rough spots in your life have been because you were not able to hold compassion, especially for yourself.
The difficulty we have is that The Universe asks us to do things that put us up against our fears. Fear of being hurt, fear of embarrassment, fear of being rejected, fear of being judged, etc. The Universe asks us to have compassion for others to be sure, but more importantly, to have compassion for ourselves, which is something we are not very good at right now. Our fear causes us to act contrary to The Universe’s tenets, and so, we sometimes crash and burn.
And those bumps and bruises, although unwelcome, are an important (and essential) part of the learning process of life on earth. And this is not a simple matter. The Universe asks you to love everyone. But you respond, “I can’t be that vulnerable, I’ll get hurt.” The Universe says, “Speak your truth!” And you say, “I can’t, people may not like it.” The Universe asks you to care for the sick, the homeless and the infirm, but you are too busy dealing with your own life. The Universe warns you about global warming, but you are not being directly impacted by it (yet)
But there is even more to this. Where does our resistance come from? Why are we so reluctant to (flow) with what The Universe is asking of us? After all, what The Universe asks is not unreasonable! (Now this next part is a bit of a head bender, so stay with me.)
We all come in feeling vulnerable. Maybe you didn’t feel as good as other people. Perhaps you felt unworthy or unlovable - whatever it was, this would prove to be THE pivotal element in your life (and your spiritual development). (Like I said, stay with me here.) And while we are at it, it might be helpful for you to know that you were not alone. Everyone and I mean EVERYONE comes in with similar feelings. And if you don’t believe me, ask your friends!
Now how could it be that everyone, and I mean EVERYONE has these same feelings? The simple truth is that someone “up there” decided that we all needed to learn to love ourselves. And believe it or not, the absolutely best way to accomplish that is to start you out by convincing you that something was wrong with you. Because of that, (eventually) you would learn the truth for yourself. But that does mean doing it the hard way!
And the thing is, as awful as that sounds, when you finally get to the truth, you will hold it so deeply that nothing will be able to shake it. This truth could not just be given to you. And although being given it may seem attractive, you have free will and The Universe is forbidden to violate that, thus it had to resort to the subterfuge.
If you are reading this, you have likely already gone down the rabbit hole. Everyone I have ever met has. The question is how far are you going to go and how firmly you will hang on to your belief in your defectiveness? One thing that may help you is to know that what you feel about yourself IS NOT TRUE - IT IS NOT REAL! It is a set-up and it will help you to know that.
Remember when you were a kid and you were afraid there was a bogeyman under your bed or in the closet? And nothing anyone could do would dispel your fear? Well, this is the sort of the same thing. There is nothing there except your belief, but in the moment, it seems like the most real thing in the universe.
So, let’s see for a moment how this plays out. You come in feeling less than, like something is wrong with you. You want your parents to fill the “hole” that you feel in yourself. But they can’t. Your desire for unconditional love puts them up against their own unresolved intimacy issues, and no matter how well intentioned, there is a limit to how far they can go. And their holding back convinces you that the original wound you brought in was true!And so you set out for life with one arm tied behind your back. Guess what happens then?
And this is the great test that The Universe puts before us. Every time you say “No,” you create a disruption in the energy flow of The Universe. Create enough disruptions and you create karma. Karma is The Universe’s way of letting you know that you are out of step.
As you sit there reading this, just say a “No” to yourself. You will feel something tighten. Do that enough, and it will eventually bite back in the form of karma. Persist in saying no, and you’ll be met with The Universal 2X4 - the universal wake-up call.
Ignore that warning and eventually you will get The Universal Cattle Prod! If you think I am kidding, walk the halls of your local hospital. You will find room after room of people who have refused to listen to what The Universe has been asking of them!
So when you are in a "situation," become the observer. Watch yourself. Irregardless of the issue, can you hold your ground and still be compassionate? It is a difficult challenge, but you are going to have to learn to do it. That is your ticket home.
Love is The Law of God.
You live that you may learn to love.
You love that you may learn to live.
No other lesson is required of Man. Mikhail Naimy
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