by Ross Bishop
Like most people, your life has its moments, but for the most part, you’re just getting by. What’s interesting is that this is intentional. You see, you weren’t put here to be happy, at least not initially. The Creator’s plan for us is to use our tendency to believe in limiting ideas about ourselves and the pain and conflict that come with them to ultimately discover the truth about who we are.
Today, like everyone else, you find yourself fighting your negative beliefs about yourself and the conflicts they cause. Our negative beliefs cause stress, conflict, and discomfort because they don’t reflect reality. Look around; everyone struggles with issues of self-worth. We have an entire planet full of people irritating each other because of their beliefs about their “personal inadequacies.”
The only solution to this situation is to learn from the friction caused by your conflicts and to value the unique person you are. In other words, to embrace the truth. This is the Creator’s plan for us and the reason we came to Earth. However, this process involves significant challenges and stress because we resist facing what we believe.
We think our difficulties come from our flaws, but that’s not true. You are not what you believe you are: unlovable, unworthy, etc. You are simply not finished. Think of a piece of clay on a potter’s wheel. There’s nothing wrong with it; it’s just incomplete. Does it have to stay that way? Probably. Since we have free will, we must accept the truth on our own. It couldn’t just be handed to us.
So, what should we do? One thing we don’t do today is learn from our conflicts. These are the doorways to our way home. When you bring a belief into a situation, it turns that situation into a conflict. For example, if I believe I am unworthy and enter a relationship, I will feel uncomfortable (internally conflicted), and my fear of rejection will cause me to hold back from my partner. My partner will sense my reluctance and respond.
In this process, I notice two signs that something’s wrong: my internal discomfort and my partner’s reaction. Instead of addressing these, we get stuck in confusion, blame each other (they have their issues too!), and either ignore what’s happening or fall into self-criticism. In either case, we avoid facing what we brought into the situation.
Over time, you will learn to live in peace and harmony, but the process will be difficult. Our goal is not to lose ourselves in our conflicts; instead, we should see them as the warning signals they are meant to be.
To help you with this process, I have created a webinar that provides a more detailed explanation and exercises to support your transition. Go to: https://www.rossbishop.com/workshop/ or click on the “Workshop” link on the site.
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