by Ross Bishop
You don’t truly value yourself. None of us do. In fact, almost no one does. We have come to Earth to resolve that issue. You see, you are worthy and lovable, but you don’t believe it. We cannot move to the next phase of our evolution until we embrace the truth about who we are.
Your relationship with your parents was difficult because of the issues you brought in. Your parents had their issues, and you had yours, so conflict was inevitable. Those conflicts reinforce our feelings of unworthiness and set us up for even more problems as we move into the adult world. This is not accidental or random. It happens to everyone. No one comes out of childhood unscarred.
This may seem counterintuitive, but challenging our beliefs is the most powerful way to resolve the doubts we hold about ourselves. And LIFE has been designed to do just that. We get short-sighted and lost in our troubles, but resolving what lies beneath those troubles is why we have come. Psychologists have cataloged our various maladies, but beneath each one, expressed in many different ways, lies our lack of self-love.
Our unworthiness is carried by our inner child. He or she carries our wounds, expressed through our beliefs, and works tirelessly, often in spite of us, to keep us from conflict by limiting our exposure.
And as a result, we masquerade; we put on a false face to get by while hiding (we think) our woundedness. The trap is that we are social beings and we need each other, and sooner or later our relationships will trigger what we believe. That is actually a gift, though we rarely see it that way.
I am not speaking of just a single lifetime here. Our troubles have deep roots, and if you journey back, you would find that you have struggled with them for a long time. Humankind as a species is evolving, and as a result, our relationships ask more of us than they did in the past. Where I live in the American Southwest, it wasn’t long ago that personal disagreements were settled by violence. Fortunately, we do that much less today, but that, in turn, demands that we address our issues rather than scapegoat others.
So, what are we to do? When a problem arises, pause for a moment and look for the beliefs driving your part of the issue. We tend to get lost in what is going on and don’t go much beyond that. I can guarantee you that unless you are coming from a place of heartfelt compassion, what is happening to you has been determined by your beliefs about unworthiness and unlovability. In the moment, dealing with those beliefs is difficult, but when you are away from the situation, go inside and look for what has driven your behavior.
OK, someone inside is scared. Why? What has the situation brought up about your worthiness or lovability that you don’t want exposed? This is the gift in the situation because it can help you look inside and, hopefully, find the truth. Now, we don’t often do that, which means a repeat performance is in the offing.
Knowing the truth can help a great deal in these situations, whether you are ready to accept it or not. To that end, I describe a method in my article, https://www.rossbishop.com/the-human-condition/, that will reveal the truth to you.
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