I am asked this question frequently. People want to know what I mean when I urge them to “Open their hearts,” and “Love everything.” Most of us spend a good part of our days being closed down, and being open can feel pretty threatening. Some people have never really opened their hearts, and they honestly do not knowRead more
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Making Mistakes
Mistakes, errors, poor judgement, we’ve all made them, lots of them. We say it’s part of being human, and although that’s true, there is a lot more going on. I’m going to divide our “screw-ups” into two general categories – those where the ego gets involved and all the rest. The non-ego category is pretty straightforward. You apologize,Read more
Giving Love
When a relationship falls apart or when a partner cheats, we can be devastated by the loss and crippled by the pain. We have been stabbed in the heart. It is an old and familiar wound. Grief and sadness over a loss is natural, but our pain comes from our attachment, not from our love. Although we doRead more
Judgment
Humans tend to segregate things into good and bad. We all make and hold judgments. We have issues with former lovers, business partners, co-workers, neighbors, former friends, parents, siblings, etc. We focus on the other people, but judgment is not about them at all. So long as you feel that you can be hurt, you will need yourRead more
Relationships – Our Greatest Teacher
The most telling thing about a person’s spiritual development is the nature of their relationships. Relationships can be open and loving and sharing, heartfelt and filled with joy, or they can be dismal prisons of stress, discouragement and failure. What would it look like to hold love with another person, without all the garbage? Jesus loved in aRead more