by Ross Bishop
This sounds incredible, but every person on the planet starts out life feeling wounded. Every person! How crazy is that? Four billion people, each one feeling as though something was wrong with them. On the surface does that make any sense? Of course not. What are the odds? There has to be a deeper explanation! And of course there is.
The Creator has designed life so that we will eventually come to love ourselves. But the hitch is our free will – He/She can’t just give self love to us. We have to accept our lovability for ourselves. Now this is going to sound crazy, but what would be the most effective way to get you to do that? By starting you out thinking there was something defective (unlovable) in you. In other words, the opposite of what you might think.
I am not here to defend The Creator’s design, and it certainly has its drawbacks, but if you look at the long pull of human history, we are getting there. The method, even with its drawbacks and difficulties, clearly works. Our species is doing better with every generation. Someone once said, “In the Middle Ages people lived in castles because they needed them.” I live in the American Southwest, where a century and a half ago you had to carry a gun to defend yourself. As I said, we have had our bumps and missteps, but that is also part of the learning process. But if you stand back, the trend line is clearly positive.
So what can you do about your part in this drama? The first thing is to realize that the wound that you carry from your childhood is not real. It was created to get you to struggle with the truth, until you surrendered to the fact that nothing was wrong with you. And the shortest, not the easiest, way to do that, is to deal directly with your shadow issues. That’s where the darkness – your self depreciating beliefs – reside.
Instinctively, we don’t want to go there. The shadow is not a nice place – it is full of fears and anxieties and all sorts of ugly things. So The Creator has designed an alternative method for going there – it is called life. Life will take you to the same places, but in manageable doses.
Life will present you with your beliefs so that you can examine and hopefully discard them. But we generally don’t want to do even that, so we try to avoid. And our capacity for avoidance is quite remarkable. But life is persistent. It has been designed to keep bringing our false beliefs around until, like it or not, we are forced to deal with them.
Fortunately there is a short cut.
When something is not going your way, pay attention to what is happening. Become aware. Don’t fight it. Let it be. Consider what in your belief system was being picked on so that you might examine it?
Either accept what is and find the subtle current of peace and harmony flowing below the layers of the situation, because doing this gives the lesson space and you time to examine it, or throw your hands up in despair crying, “Why me?” (Self-pity is resistance toward any blessing.) And by not accepting the moment or situation, you only build a wall of resistance to what is being offered.
Remember that everything that happens here has a purpose focused on your development. Everything. Behind every struggle is a lesson of growth or blessing waiting to present itself. And your reaction to a situation is the most important aspect of it. But we get all balled up in the turmoil. Stand back – what is the “lesson” of this event? What is life trying to teach you?
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Note: I am creating a class to address the situations mentioned in this article. Stay tuned, it will be announced next month.
