When you are engaged in a conflict, you and the other person are at swords’ points, your focus is going to be on them and what they are going to do next. The last thing you want to do is to go any deeper and start investigating your own motives. We just want to get through the moment and stop.
Think about the concept of “boundary.” A boundary is to protect something from an intrusion. So the first thing we know is that the concept of boundary is somewhat antithetical to the concept of relationship.
God had a quandary. She wanted to bring us to an enlightened state but She could not just give it to us (we have free will). So, She had to develop the means for us to get it on our own. She had to create a process (a middle step) between ignorance and enlightenment that would facilitate our transition into enlightenment.
It’s a common theme this time of year. We rush around shopping and going to parties, visiting family, etc. so we’re doing a lot, and there is a physical drain. And of course, it is supposed be a joyous and happy time! But it’s not just running the marathon of parties, etc. that is getting to you. The stress you are feeling is coming straight from your inner kid.
Gratitude changes the lens through which you view life. It pulls you out of the morass of your daily ego struggles and reminds you of how much you are loveland supported. It also helps protect you from the destructive influences of envy, resentment, greed and bitterness.