Some Spiritual Practices

There are a few effective practices that can make a great deal of difference in your life. The first is a technique that Krishnamurti taught. He maintained that this was his “secret to life.” Krishnamurti looked at every situation and reminded himself that:


We make situations matter. Good lord, the time and energy we expend over situations that have little real consequence! In truth, most situations don’t, except to our egos. This is especially true when you realize that you cannot be harmed. The people involved in your life situations are important, very important, but that is a significant distinction. Krishnamurti was trying to teach us to make the people very important, but not the situations.

Gay Hendricks teaches people to say,“So what!” to life situations. I want to be careful here. This is not a “screw you” to the other person. Rather it is an attempt to untangle from the situation and shift your focus to what is really important. Interestingly enough, when you do this, you can actually be more open to see and feel what is troubling the other person.

So your partner is upset. So what! He gets to be mad if he needs to! You don’t have to like it, but don’t get all caught up in the fact that he is upset.

Always be aware that there may be something you need to look at, so always, always, see and feel their pain, because you may want to look into your behavior. The “So what!” is to keep you from getting sucked into the drama!

You never want to fully disconnect from people because it is through other people that we learn! That’s why social isolation, although sometimes appealing, is not really helpful. It makes it more difficult to finish what you came here to do. When someone gets upset with me, I don’t like it, but there is always an important piece of learning there for me. We all need to stand back from our encounters and say:

“What has this situation come to teach me?”

That is when the payoff comes for all that spiritual work you have been doing.

We can argue about subtleties, but when all is said and done, every life situation comes down to two simple choices. You either respond from compassion or you hold back. It is that simple. Now, I know it’s not that simple to do. You get scared and angry and your fear of being hurt closes down your natural compassion.

If you can find the presence of mind to stop and realize that you are being triggered, that your response is old, that it doesn’t come from this situation and it really doesn’t have anything to do with the other person, it becomes much easier to be compassionate.

You’re still not going to like what is happening, but recognize that your feelings are coming from deep within you. That will help you to not dump all over them for what you are feeling. The point is, you can choose to be compassionate or not. It is always a choice. As a first step:


If you have to push yourself, do it. Set aside the resentment and the pain (which are in you – not the situation) and find your compassion. You do not have to like what is going on, but hold compassion for who they are, regardless. Love them because they too, are children of God. They may be completely lost, but they are still traveling the same road you are. In this instance what they need is your love not your condemnation.

It doesn’t matter what the situation is. Everyone is struggling with their own demons. Love who they are, not their fear, not their rage, not the foolish and mindless things we all sometimes do.

Work on your compassion; not just for them, but because it will be better for you! It will make you feel better, much better. Do not subject yourself to hurtful behavior, but even if you have to be compassionate at a distance, do it. That is the secret behind Christ’s admonition to,

“Turn the other cheek.” 

Yes, it will make for a better world, but what the Christ was really getting at is that it will make for a much better you. If you can find it in your heart to extend some of that compassion toward yourself, that would be especially wonderful! My channeled friend Bartholomew said,

“When you choose love when you have every reason to choose other, then you truly become the Master.” 

Vincent Van Gough, who was a lay minister before he became a painter said, “The best way to know God is to love many things.” Start with yourself. Even in small ways. Choose Compassion. You won’t believe how powerful this practice can be.

Alan Cohen tells of a Zen master named Sono who taught one very simple method of enlightenment. She advised everyone who came to her to adopt one affirmation, to be said many times a day, under all conditions. The affirmation was,

“Thank you for everything. I have no complaint whatsoever.” 

Many people from all walks of life came to Sono for healing. Some were in pain, others were emotionally distraught, others had financial troubles, some were seeking soul liberation. No matter what their distress or what question they asked her, her response was always the same:

 “Thank you for everything. I have no complaint whatsoever.”

Some people went away disappointed, others grew angry; others tried to argue with her. Yet some people took her suggestion and began to use it and found peace and healing:

“Thank you for everything. I have no complaint whatsoever.”

If you can’t, then you have identified something you need to work on.

Either way, you win!

This is an adapted post from my new book About Life, now available in paperback and eBook editions. For more extracts and testimonials, click here.









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