By Ross Bishop
Put simply, life becomes difficult when you resist what is being asked of you. Allow me to explain:
You came to earth to resolve certain unfinished aspects of your being (usually about love of self). But because you have free will, you cannot simply be given your lovability. You must come to find it for yourself.
Your incompleteness makes you to feel inadequate and that in turn, leads to the creation of a set of beliefs. So, you start out believing an opposite, i.e. “I am not lovable” or “I am not worthy” to compensate for your feelings of “inadequacy.”
This all started before you were born. What we call the “soul” or your “higher self,” brought in these issues for you to work on. And without realizing it, your parents (who were specifically selected for you) stumbled into your unfinished parts. But rather than simply being a place you needed to address, these “soft spots” felt like weaknesses, vulnerabilities, inadequacies.
And as I said, these led to the creation of your beliefs. And as you grew up, you learned to hide them. You shut this “inadequate” part of yourself off to the world in order to not be hurt or embarrassed (again). You have created a whole approach to life based in your beliefs. It doesn’t matter that your beliefs are false, that is where you are. And so you are understandably reluctant to mess with them.
You are being asked to change, to venture into a state that is unfamiliar, and that goes against, for right or wrong, what you have come to believe about yourself, no matter how dysfunctional that may be.And when you act on those beliefs, because they are not true, they won’t hold water.
This is The Universe’s way of nudging you to call your attention to what you are doing. The way this happens is that life will present you with a conflict – a challenge that, although sometimes painful, at the same time encourages you to grow, learn and evolve.
But we do not change easily. We are creatures of habit, and would rather stay with what we know, almost no matter how painful that is, than venture into the foreboding unknown. We are saying that we are frightened to change. And when we resist changing, we are refusing the Universe’s help.
So you resist. You avoid. You venture off into side roads that avoid direct confrontation with what is being asked of you. But when you resist, in response, The Universe cranks up the intensity. The further you go to avoid, The Universe must respond in kind. And it will be relentless in pointing out your false assumptions.
How does it do that? By creating conflicts with other people. Is that tough? You bet it is. Is there pain and discomfort? Yes there is. And that’s where pain comes in. That is why, when asked the meaning of life, the Buddha replied, “Life is pain.”
And in some cases this can lead to a good deal of pain and suffering. Avoid long enough and the stress created can break down the tissues of the body in the condition we know as disease. Thus the stage is set for conflict. God is urging us to go in one direction and the ego is going, “No way!” Guess who wins?
To repeat, ultimately, life is difficult because it requires you to confront your fears, limitations and beliefs which The Universe is asking you to give up. This is not to punish or for retribution but rather for your learning, for your spiritual development. The Universe asks that you expand your consciousness and align with your highest potential.
Somehow we got caught up in a romantic belief that life was supposed to be a lark, a fairy tale romp in the glade. And when it turns out to be different from that, then we blame ourselves for our “failure.”
Our challenges can be uncomfortable, painful or even traumatic, but the process is purposeful. These challenges and the resulting changes are necessary for your growth. And over time and many trials, you will finally come to know the truth. And because you have come to the truth yourself, you will hold that understanding more firmly than any other way could teach you. That is the secret to, and reason for, things being the way they are.
It takes courage to let go of what you have always believed to be true, but it is necessary in order to evolve and become the person you were meant to be. However, when you can open to change, life becomes a good deal easier. Then you are able to tap into the Universe’s power and guidance. You are able to flow with the changes that are happening around you and can then learn to grow more easily from them. You are also able to connect with your true self. This can help you to create a life that is filled with joy, love, and abundance.
Here are some tips for overcoming what is holding you back:
- The first step to overcoming resistance is to become aware of it. Pay attention to your inner conflicts and your difficulties with others. When you notice that you are resisting, ask yourself “Why.” What are you afraid of? What are you trying to protect?
- Once you are aware of your resistance, you can start to challenge your beliefs. Are your beliefs really true? You may act this way, but is that really who you are? Are your beliefs really serving you? If not, it may be time to let them go.
- The best way to overcome resistance is to take action. When you take action, you are showing the Universe that you are serious about change.
See you on the other side . . .
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