Life is a process designed to help you make the transition from the ego space to to the God Space.
The ego is a protective system designed to keep you out of situations you fear will embarrass or expose you. And as long as you believe you are defective or unworthy, you’ll need that protection.
The inner child is the seat of your emotions and your beliefs, especially as they relate to unlovability and unworthiness. Your beliefs protect your inner child’s vulnerability and therefore can be very difficult to give up.
You cannot possibly be the things you believe, but as long as you hold those beliefs you must act on them, and that’s the rub.
The reason this all is important is that your beliefs drive your behavior. As long as you have beliefs, there will be “flaws” in yourself that you must protect. Because after all, we act as we believe.
When you live from your beliefs, from your ego, life becomes about a lot of coping. Coping with pain, coping with failure, coping with your “inadequacies,” making compromises to have a career or be in a relationship.
I want to be clear about something: This business of life is not about becoming something different than you are. You don’t have to change anything, except what you believe – especially about yourself. Once you shed your beliefs then your natural self can shine through.
But, that means leaving the security your beliefs provide, and that can be very anxiety producing.
Your inner child’s fear is that if she lets go of her protection, she’ll just be trampled underfoot, that she’ll just be swallowed up. That’s how it has felt in the past, and this is where your presence becomes critical. She needs to know that you can and will be there to love and protect her.
There are places where you get scared and act out of fear, but that is not who you are, it is just how you sometimes act, but you are reluctant to challenge your beliefs because that would upset the careful balance you have created between your beliefs and whatever level of truth you have come to accept.
It’s sort of a tightrope walk, where your equilibrium can be upset at any moment. God is asking you to get off the tightrope and take wing and you’re saying “I’m afraid to let go. I am afraid to take the risk. What if I can’t fly?”
And so long as you believe that you can’t, you can’t. And you’ll need your ego protection.
Believe it or not, at the level of your soul, all this earthly commotion actually makes sense. It is not only purposeful, it is necessary. Your flaws, your problems, will motivate you to find a different way to do your life, leading you to the God Space, to greater compassion. So, learning to love is the outcome, the final product of this process.
Now, making a big life change is pretty scary. But, know what’s even scarier?