Hassidic philosopher Martin Buber wrote that people have two kinds of relationships. Buber defined these as either ”I : it,” or “I : You.” The difference is that in “I : it” the other person becomes a thing, an object, whereas in “I : you,” they retain their essential humanity. Since in “I : it,” the other has lostRead more
The Ego
Being Successful
Two Flowers (a short story) The morning sun broke gently over the pond. The frogs and dragonflies awoke and crawled out of the shadows to warm themselves and dry off the evening dew. They greeted the sun with a cacophony of sound that announced the beginning of another day of pond life. The morning mist disappeared into theRead more
Having Hurt Feelings
OK, so your partner said something hurtful and it stung! You are wounded, angry and you feel betrayed. Inside, you feel like you have leprosy. No one likes being in these situations, even though we all end up there from time to time. When something like this happens we usually get caught up in the drama and feelingRead more
Why We Speak
Because speech comes naturally, we don’t think about it much. But paying attention to what people say tells us a great deal about what is going on for them. Basically, we speak because we want something. We want the salt, we want to know the price, we need help with the kids. . . So, a good dealRead more
The Road Less Traveled
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I- I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. -Robert Frost Every life situation presents a choice. You either move to a place of compassion or not, regardless of context. Always. Every situation. Love for them. . . love for yourself. . . or not.Read more