“Every loving thought is true. Everything else is an appeal for healing and help, regardless of the form it takes.” Helen Shucman
Sometimes a thought catches you and causes you to change the way you see things. That happened to me with Helen’s quote. It took me back to something Gay Hendricks teaches, “The only thing any situation needs is more love.”
It’s interesting when you look at the world this way. You can see that it is true! At the core, everything we do is either a request to be loved or an appeal to be received and accepted when one feels unloved. The saying, “Love makes the world go ’round” may be more true than anyone realized.
Some communication is strictly functional, “Please pass the potatoes,” or “Highway 25 will be closed for bridge construction,” but that comprises a surprisingly small part of our communication.
Log on to Facebook and you’ll find pleas for the world to be more compassionate or requests, often indirect, for help, love or to have one’s own views honored and respected. Open the NY Times or the Washington Post – every story can be reduced to the need for someone, in some way or other, to be loved or accepted.
The obvious conclusion is that we as a people suffer greatly from a need to feel loved. Call it what you want – social acceptance, political harmony, environmental activism, gay rights, clean water, women’s rights or a thousand other “issues,” – all have at their core, in addition to the issue, somebody saying, “Please love me, please accept my ideas.”
I wonder if recognizing this dynamic might change the tenor of these discussions? What if the struggle over women’s issues or gay rights held the realization that everyone involved needed more love? What would happen to your relationships if you were to operate from this premise in your life? The thing becomes easier to understand when you see the great interplay as perfect – meaning nothing, and no one, can be “wrong”.
What if you could love fundamentalist Christians or Rush Limbaugh? That doesn’t mean agreeing with either of them, but it does mean respecting their right to believe as they need, even to be terribly confused, but holding their fear with compassion, recognizing that they are simply at a phase of their process.
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