Do you get upset easily? Do other people set you off? Do you get angry, explosively so, at your partner? Worse yet, are you unremittingly harsh on yourself? What about other drivers? Or, conversely, are you withdrawn and totally timid? Do you live in abject fear of being hurt if you speak your mind? A certain amount ofRead more
Life Experiences
Judgment
Humans tend to segregate things into good and bad. We all make and hold judgments. We have issues with former lovers, business partners, co-workers, neighbors, former friends, parents, siblings, etc. We focus on the other people, but judgment is not about them at all. So long as you feel that you can be hurt, you will need yourRead more
Every Loving Thought
“Every loving thought is true. Everything else is an appeal for healing and help, regardless of the form it takes.” Helen Shucman Sometimes a thought catches you and causes you to change the way you see things. That happened to me with Helen’s quote. It took me back to something Gay Hendricks teaches, “The only thing any situation needs isRead more
Making The Other An “It”
Hassidic philosopher Martin Buber wrote that people have two kinds of relationships. Buber defined these as either ”I : it,” or “I : You.” The difference is that in “I : it” the other person becomes a thing, an object, whereas in “I : you,” they retain their essential humanity. Since in “I : it,” the other has lostRead more
Relationships – Our Greatest Teacher
The most telling thing about a person’s spiritual development is the nature of their relationships. Relationships can be open and loving and sharing, heartfelt and filled with joy, or they can be dismal prisons of stress, discouragement and failure. What would it look like to hold love with another person, without all the garbage? Jesus loved in aRead more